No one goes through life the same person.
We all make shifts and changes.
Frankly sometimes we may be fairly clueless about what is happening and where we are going.
Those times may be very intense and we do some silly things or make some downright dumb decisions.
Life can get very squirrelly and unpredictable. (I have a favorite phrase: Gold is refined through intense heat.)
Growth in an individual, marriage or family often is accompanied by a little chaos.
Welcome these shifts, for there is a part of you searching for something better/different/richer/deeper, but for heaven’s sake, inform your partner of what you are experiencing.
Say, “I really don’t know what is going on in me right now, but I’m moving in a different direction.
Be a little patient with me while I figure this out. I might do some silly things, but my intent is not to harm you or scare you.
Accept some of my wondering and wandering and please be there for me? I may need to run some of this by you every so often!”